Listen to Your Wife

Listen to Your Wife

19 While he was sitting on the judgment seat, his wife sent to him, saying, “Have nothing to do
with that just Man, for I have suffered many things today in a dream because of Him.” 20 But the
chief priests and elders persuaded the multitudes that they should ask for Barabbas and destroy
Jesus. 21 The governor answered and said to them, “Which of the two do you want me to release
to you?” They said, “Barabbas!”

Matthew 27:19-21

I have spoken with many people going through divorce as a pastor. It’s never an easy
thing because of all the raw emotions that exist during something like that. One thing that I hear
many times however is:

‘My parents and friends tried to warn me but I just didn’t see what they were seeing.’

It is amazing how often we find ourselves blind to what is going on right in front of us.
How many Bible stories have you read where you just want to yell at the people and their
choices which are so obviously wrong? How many times does that happen with the people
around you? It so easy to see when it’s in others and yet so hard when it’s ourselves.

The Bible says in James 1:19,

19 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;

How much better could are lives be if we followed this rule. We should listen to those
around us. It doesn’t mean we’ll always do what they say, but we analyze their wisdom and
experience. Yes, we will still make mistakes, probably many, but we will also be saved many
times from the wisdom that God places in those around us.

However, we must also be wise with who exactly we listen to. Pilate chose to hear the
Jewish leaders, people who hated him, over his wife, someone who loved him. This is never a
good idea. We must surround ourselves with those who love us and want the best for us. We must
be surrounded by those who aren’t worried about telling it as-it-is even if it hurts. Our true
counselors will tell us what we need to hear and not what we want to hear.

God also speaks to us. The Bible is God’s word and it clearly tells us what is right and
wrong. Through its guidance, it can keep us safe from many downfalls. It is an ancient book but
one that has stood the test of time.

God bless,

Pr. Steven Couto